There's a Seat Here!: Why Black Men Don't Go to Church?

Men in the black community that are grown enough to forego or have some sort of autonomy over their Sunday, usually don't go to church. Women are stuck between urging their partner to go to service with them or giving up on the request altogether. Even though it's not a complete deal breaker, women want to know "Why doesn't my man/boyfriend want to go to church with me?" It wouldn't even be an overstatement to say it hurts a woman when a man dismisses accompanying her to the Lord's house. Honestly, theSUNK doesn't know all the answers, but here are a few assumptions on why black men don't go to church:
The Message Isn't Clear
Some churches aren't delivering a relevant message to its black men. The message becomes unclear for black men when it seems the preacher is spewing abstract words full of promise rather than plans that are actually tangible and constructive. The disconnect between what is said and what is done is a turn off for black men. Men are very skeptical with who they trust and who they are willing to give authority to. If the authority is questioned, than the message will be as well.

Too Much Preaching and Not Enough Teaching
Men like to taught. Men like to walk away with a lesson. Some pastors lack the median between preaching and teaching. Preaching sounds like an attack, but to be taught something is to be saved. Hopefully, when you're taught you won't make those mistakes.

Too Theatrical

Passion is great. People respond to passion. But when you start flailing your arms, sweating profusely and dabbing your forehead with your handkerchief between every word you say; we can't take you seriously. People running around the church, a symphony of "umm hmms" and "preach" sound like disorganized clutter to a man that wants a seriousness when he comes to pray. Not that it has to be too serious, but serious enough to come off legitimate rather than stereotypical and off-putting.

Preaching for Profit
Where is my money going? Men don't want to support an enterprise that's preaching for dollars. The dollars are there to maintain and support the youth, not to be spent on a Cadillac or mega church for the preacher. Men have an aversion to be in lamer terms "played". Black men are skeptical of institutions altogether; hospitals, government, and even churches.

Ain't No Mirrors in Church
Sometimes when a man makes an effort to go to church and give it try; when they get there they might not feel like they see a reflection of themselves. They feel like there isn't too many men there that they can take serious or are

"Irrelevant Social Club"
Martin Luther King Jr. wrote in the Birmingham Letter that the church was in danger of becoming an "irrelevant social club". Social clubs are full of gossip, elitism, and

Hypocrites

Feminine

Serve the Pastor More than Their Man




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