Are You, Wife Material or a Wifey?
The best thing a woman can do is evaluate herself, and compare it to how her lover views her. Because at the end of the day you know if you are a wifey or the wife. If you've always have had doubts about getting the bling on your ring finger, than you probably are the wifey. The Wife knows that there are no other chicks that compare to her or that are even in her league with that man, she knows she has no competition.
Wifey is a control device, it's a title giving so she won't ever leave; she thinks its cute but its not. I'm his wifey, "wifeys" or anything with "ey" at the end of it is the pet, miniature, or the lesser of the real. Take heed ladies, men will string you along like a puppy for companionship and drop you like a hot plate for the wife material that they really want. Just know your place and know the roles of the man/men in your life. Do this, so you won't get hurt or waste anymore time dealing with a guy that will never give you all of what you want from him.
And even if you are wife material, you may not be the wife for him. Two good people are not always meant for one another, even though they both bring great things to the table.
Ladies how do you know if your the wife or the wifey? How do you determine if a man is husband material? What do you do to be thought of as a good wife? Do you understand that the man determines who is wife material and not you?
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posted by theSUNK at
12:33 AM
10 Comments:
how does he decide? I don't think thats fair!
I know that I am the wife material when he introduces me to both his parents and really sit down and explain to them that "I love this girl and she's the one". If they tell the parents that you're the wife material, than most likely you are!
@Anonymous I agree with that, but you also have men with mothers mostly that aren't accepting of any women they bring home too. You make a great point though.
@Nou Nou,
"how does he decide? I dnt think thats fair!"
Well, if you like someone, they have the right to decide if they like you or not. The same with marraige, just because you are in love with a person doesn't mean they must love you in return(even though we all hope that).
You think you're marriage material? huh? Well thats nice, but does he think you're marraige material? Because at the end of the day his opinion is the only one that matters. You can f^ck yourself kinda, but you can't marry yourself.
im not sure if i totally agree with your distinction. i do think that wifey and wife are two different entities, but are not mutually exclusive. I feel that you are wifey, then you "graduate" to being wife. clearly this isn't always the case and there are some men who act as you mentioned.
i think what you described comes from men who throw around nicknames like boo, wifey, girlfriend, etc. just so they can get what they want from women. so if those females get dumped unsuspectedly, they were most likely being used and are probably better off anyway
even though you can't force someone to marry you, i think that a person should be able to figure out if they are marriage material with some deep introspection. a man may know that I'm not the one for him, but that does NOT mean I am not marriage material (/will be in 5-7 years) lol
in summary, i pretty much agree with you
Future wifey said it perfectly :-) but ladies do need to know where they stand in their relationship and that is where good communication comes in..
I have a question that i hope you could answer for me; how do i evaluate myself and then compare it to the way he views me.?! Should i ask him how and what he thinks of me.!??
Christi, its better to just ask him if he think you're wife material. But just because he thinks your wife material doesnt exclusively mean he thinks your wife material for him.
The best way is to truely listen in those candid moments about what he wants and be brutally honest with yourself to see if you measure up.
See "good communication" can work one of two ways, though. Say you do ask him ifhe thinks that you're wife material or what you can work on. He could possibly lie and give you the "you are wife material" or the "of course!"
@runningforthrills that's with any question. Anyone can lie at any given time.
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